To read the introduction to my Happiness Project, click here.
To read my week 6 progress, click here.
This week I have been looking at the second chapter of Bill Ford’s High Energy Habits – Get rid of the little things that annoy you. Bill states that we should identify the little things that we intend to fix and start sorting them out, as it takes energy to ignore them.
Bill says that if you only choose one thing in the book to do, this should be it as it will give you the most immediate payback for the effort you put in.
Write a list of all the little things that annoy you. You could include such things as:
- a loose or missing button
- shelves that sag with too much stuff
- e-mail back log
- a dripping tap
- mould around the bath
- light bulbs that need replacing
- things that need to be returned to shops
- odd assortment of things waiting to be glued
- no room in filing cabinet
- drawer that doesn’t shut properly
- house not finished
- car breaking down
- garden in poor state
- double glazing sales people calling in the evenings
- committee participation
- divorce not finalised
- newspapers waiting to be read
Some of the items will be small and others bigger which is fine. All of these types of things are a drain on our energy as they niggle away at us and slow us down. A lot of the time we know what we have to do to fix these things but we never get around to doing it. We don’t feel they are important enough or serious enough for us to deal with immediately, so we keep putting them off. If we’re not careful years can pass before we know it.
Other sources of annoyance could include children’s behaviour, our habits, the car, our body, the behaviour of others, the office, colleagues and equipment. Once you start noticing all these little things you will find they are all over the place.
Ford suggests starting by dividing your list into work items (if applicable) and personal items. Start noticing more and more how much there is that is not the way you want it to be. You will start to notice more as your sensitivity increases and you can keep adding to the list over time.
Pick three easy ones to complete in the next week (ones that you know how to fix and won’t take too long). Then keep going. The momentum will build. You will need to come back to your list on a regular basis as you add and remove more. If you don’t know how to fix something or can’t afford to do so, or are reluctant to acknowledge it, write it down, as sometimes just doing that will help.
My first item that I dealt with this week was to fix my daughter’s clothes drawer. Everytime I went to put her clothes away I would forget it was broken and pull the handles and the front panel would come off. It really annoys me every time as I have to spend time and energy fiddling with it trying to put it back together which may or may not involve emptying the entire drawer (the contents having probably fallen out when attempting to fix the drawer without emptying it first). Then of course refolding all the clothes and saying that next time I will remember that the drawer is broken! It’s ridiculous to go through such a palava when all it needs is a bit of glue. So, said drawer has now been fixed and I am very happy about that!
My second item was my son’s pyjama drawer which was jam packed full of pyjamas. Everytime I would put his pyjamas away I would be shoving and stuffing them in scraping my knuckles on the top of the drawer. Again, ridiculous. It took me about 10 minutes to go through it and take out the pyjamas that no longer fitted him and bagged them up for charity. Job done!
My third annoyance was my daughter not tidying up her desk when she had finished with it at the end of the day. I solved this by showing her how to put things back in their place so we know where to find them. She is always losing things because they have been left out someplace. I then made it into a game where we spend 10 minutes each evening tidying up all flat surfaces. If they complete it, they get an extra 10 mins on their tablets the next day. If they don’t – they lose 10 mins.
Here is a quick recap on how I am getting on with my other resolutions for February.
My music play list
I have been choosing a song a day (sometimes with the help of my children). I am also listening to some of the songs during the day and I find that I am singing a lot more too. Here is my playlist so far:
- Firework – Katy Perry
- Roar – Katie Perry
- Black Magic – Little Mix
- Dance Monkey – Tones and I
- Whenever, Wherever – Shakira
- Hips Don’t Lie – Shakira
- Mamma Mia – ABBA
- Stitches – Shawn Mendez
- Bad Blood – Taylor Swift
- Single Ladies – Beyonce
- All About That Bass – Meghan Trainer
- Crazy In Love – Beyonce
- Uptown Funk – Bruno Mars
- Bad Romance – Lady Gaga
- Girls Just Wanna Have Fun – Cyndi Lauper
- Hey Mickey – Toni Basil
My next resolution was 10,000 steps a day (or 60,000 a week). Have completed so far.
Apart from a bumpy start at the beginning of the month which I wrote about in my last post, I have now found my happy place with cutting out unhealthy snacks and have in fact overhauled my entire way of eatingthanks to @collegenutritionist on Instagram. This week I have lost 1.3kg and I am at my lowest weight since September! I have also cut out alcohol so far in February.
My last resolution was to drink 1,893ml water a day which I have completed successfully so far.
I will publish my week 8 progress on the 25th February.